Joshua Pellicer here.
The guys who learn from me are a different breed of man. They aren’t suckers and they can smell bull sh*t from a mile away. So, if you’re like me, you’re probably wondering, “Who is Joshua Pellicer and why can he help me be a badass with women?”
Well, I’m a completely normal guy. I didn’t want to believe that I was worthless or that I’d never be good with women. I just wasn’t interested in feeling like a victim for the rest of my life or a guy who got walked all over and over-looked.
I started looking for answers for a lot of the same reasons I think you are…
• I wanted to make sure I could attract my future wife when I met her.
• I didn’t want to feel helpless when I got into a social situation.
• I wanted to date lots of different types of women and get that ‘out of my system’ before it was too late.
So I started looking for the answers online and I found something out, “There is a LOT of information about how to meet women online!” I figured “It was all the same, right?” and I just started trying it out.
I ended up wasting YEARS of my life on things that just didn’t work for me. I wanted a real solution that would “fix me” to the core. Not just make me pretend to be someone else forever.
So I started creating my own system. I took all of the parts from the years of study that actually worked and I linked them all together into a new system that actually MADE SENSE.
It was brilliant. I started offering coaching classes and I booked up for 3 months in the first day the program was open… That’s when I knew I was on to something.
I became a full-time coach and continued my studies. I got pretty popular for a while there: The Today Show, The NY Press, The NY Times, The NY Daily News, etc, etc… I was even made fun of on Saturday Night Live! Hell, Maxim Radio offered me a show all about meeting women, which I accepted and hosted for several years!
After teaching thousands of men I realized that there were specific ‘patterns’ in the success… and the failures… of men with women. And just because I was teaching, it didn’t mean my studying ended.
But while I was working with my company before I was under a contract that wouldn’t allow me to teach you the real dating coaches secrets… the things that only we know about. If I did, they were afraid that no one would ever come to the classes again (which were $3500 a piece).
But now that I’ve left I can tell you everything. And that’s exactly what I do in The Tao of Badass.
You should give it a read and tell me what you think.
Here’s what other people have to say about me… They don’t know me as well as you do though.
“Joshua Pellicer is an American professional dating coach with a focus in Rapport and Connection has appeared on The Today Show on NBC, Current TV, The New York Daily News, and The New York Press. Pellicer also founded the first show on satellite radio completely devoted to improving the listener’s success with women called ‘Game On’ on Sirius and XM radio.
Pellicer entered the Dating Coach Community in 2003 through the study of Relationship Psychology.
Pellicer studied NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), Psychology of Attraction and Rapport, Seduction, Body Language, and Positive Psychology. He has also worked alongside The Anthony Robbins Company and as a demographic consultant for AXE Bodyspray’s advertising department. Pellicer has also received personal training from Dale Carnegie Instructor Howard Tangler and NLP expert Wyatt Woodsmall.
Pellicer’s Contributions to the World of Relationship Psych:
”’Relationship Balance”’ – Pellicer believed that the final stage in an interaction was “Relationship Balance,” one step beyond the traditional ‘Map of Interaction’ developed by Erik Markovich, which ended with Seduction. “Relationship Balance,” described by Pellicer, in his book, “The Tao of Badass,” “is the idea that four major factors intertwine to form a comfortable, sustainable equilibrium in our relationships. Those four components are: power (or leadership), compliance, value, and neediness.” Pellicer theorizes that all four components are needed to sustain a healthy long-term relationship and must be constantly monitored to keep them from becoming out of balance.
”’Consummate Love Triangle”’ – Pellicer also adapted a version of the Triangular Theory of Love by Robert Sternberg to become what he called “The Consummate Love Triangle”. In Pellicer’s version, Consummate, or “True Love” consists of Emotional Attraction, Logical Attraction, And Physical Attraction. Pellicer believed that lacking of any of these three “corners” of the Consummate Love Triangle will result in a different deficit in a relationship. Those three deficit relationship types, as Pellicer describes it, are Hopeless Romanticism, Superficial Love, and Friendship.
”’6 Rules of Long Term Attraction”’ – Pellicer also believed that there were 6 Rules to sustain Long Term Attraction. One of them, “Similarities,” theorizes that one attracts a partner who has similar insecurity levels to them. Pellicer also believed that failed relationships were based on “Like Insecurities” and successful relationships were based on “Complimentary Insecurities.” Another of Pellicer’s 6 Rules of Long Term Attraction, “Reinforcement,” suggested that one is attracted to another because one believes the other will make them more valuable. Pellicer’s three forms of Reinforcement were the Caged Bird” theory, the “Free Bird” theory, and “Mutual Reinforcement”.
”’Self Fulfilling Prophecy Qualifier – The Self Fulfilling Prophecy Qualifier, as Pellicer described it, is using the technique of “naming off a quality, or several qualities, that you want a woman to have…” that you haven’t seen an indicator of yet. Pellicer believes that when we are accepted for qualities in ourselves by others we will be more likely to display those qualities in order to gain more acceptance, even if we believe that we don’t have those qualities. Pellicer taught that using this concept when speaking to women would cause a woman to become more attracted to the person using the technique.
”Rapport Formula” – Pellicer also developed what he believed was a formula for building an emotional connection called, “The Rapport Formula.” The Rapport Formula consists of a series of emotional language and what Pellicer called “Confirmations” to create an emotional connection during conversation.
”Polar Opposing Insecurity Compensation” – Polar Opposing Insecurity Compensation (or POIC) is a concept developed by Pellicer which theorizes that when one focuses on what they don’t want to become, they will always over compensate and become the extreme opposite. Pellicer believed this was negative and created insecurities.
”Source of Insecurity” – Pellicer believed that the source of every insecurity was stemmed from feeling unaccepted. He theorized that most insecurities are born from single incidents that eventually grow into large scale fears.
Among other concepts developed by Pellicer are:
“The New Gender Roles”
“The Self Guided Missile Self Improvement Model”
“The Three Rapport Types”
“The 3 Meta Questions”
And his model for “Emotional Control””